Alcoholic and dating again
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OP and others on this thread; There are recovering alcoholics and addicts around you every day- at work and at play- you just don't know it.
Sort of like dating a christian when you're an atheist.He played sports, coached sports, went to 2 or more AA meetings weekly, served on an AA board with conferences/meetings twice a month, met with his sponsor, went to weekly meditation, and then also wanted to try to find someone to sponsor.It felt like he was addicted to AA instead of drinking.Pick a rather relaxed moment where you can initiate a conversation as to what lead him (I assume you are not a Lesbian and am sorry if I am wrong) to drink and then just delicately go from there. all my major relationships have been with someone who was, or turned out to be, in recovery.OP, if that's not you, then you're probably fine dating an AA in recovery.I've never met anyone, myself included, who became a drug addict or alcoholic because they were coping well and emotionally healthy. Many people who become sober fall off the wagon because they cannot or choose not to deal with the root causes of the addiction, which often includes depression, anxiety, trauma, abuse, childhood issues, etc.
In addition, staying sober, at least in the first few years, is a full-time job and having a new romance is very distracting. OPI am in Al-Anon and here is all I know which may or may not help you.
I have a college friend who is in recovery, and I adore her.
Other than that, I don't have much interface with addicts, I guess. People who are addicted to alcohol and drugs are usually masking something deeper.
She has whatever her own experience is to draw on, plus what she's learned from & about others going through the same process. I think of him as someone who's been through a lot and taken control of his life, which I respect. He's past his "year" benchmark, which is why he started to date, for the record. He's not preachy, is very funny, seems kind, and we have tons in common in terms of interests. From what he and his long term friends told me about his drinking days, this guy was DEEP into drinking and drugs. " they would shriek, all the while downing gallons of coffee and chain smoking cigarettes.
Like waking up and not knowing where he was and how he got there sort of thing. That he was in recovery became his whole focus in life. I dated a man for almost 3 years long distance...which were also the beginnings of his recovery using the AA program.
He lost 3 jobs during the time we dated which he said was never his fault.